If We Break: A Memoir of Marriage, Addiction, and Healing

 
        這本書不是要批判誰對誰錯，或是誰是好人誰是壞人。而是一本關於凱特琳．布勒在與杭特．拜登多年的婚姻之中，如何找回屬於自己的聲音，並活出自己人生的精彩回憶錄。
 
        凱特琳．布勒出身於芝加哥的中產階級家庭，在一次志工營隊裡，遇到了杭特．拜登，兩人相識相戀。幾個月後凱特琳意外發現自己懷孕了，隨後與杭特成婚，這才懵懵懂懂地踏上了不平凡的人生之路。小夫妻一開始相信只要彼此握緊雙手，便沒有過不去的難關，然而當丈夫的酗酒問題漸趨嚴重，凱特琳才意識到婚姻是如何脆弱且不堪一擊。
 
        回顧這些歲月，書中凱特琳不禁想問自己，為什麼獨自隱忍多年？為什麼會讓自己落入必須依靠一個男人的困境？又為什麼讓保守秘密的忠誠度，優先於發生在自己身上的真實情況？凱特琳揭露了在每一段婚姻中，女人們如何迷失自我，又能夠如何找回自己、重新振作。

NATIONAL BESTSELLER - Kathleen Buhle shares her story of resilience and self-discovery after her marriage to Hunter Biden unraveled in the wake of substance abuse and infidelity in this ＂dignified and revealing＂ (People) memoir.

＂Kathleen Buhle’s brave and honest story transcends politics, division, hearsay, and judgment.＂--Connie Britton

This is not a story about good versus evil. Or who was right. Or who was better. For decades, Kathleen Buhle chose to play the role of the good wife, beginning when, as a naïve young woman from a working-class family on the South Side of Chicago, she met the dashing son of a senator at the Jesuit Volunteer Corps in Oregon. Within months of falling in love, Kathleen found herself pregnant and engaged, living a life beyond anything she’d ever known.

Determined to build her family on a foundation of love, Kathleen was convinced her and Hunter’s commitment to each other could overcome any obstacle. But when Hunter’s drinking evolved into dependency, she was forced to learn how rapidly and irrevocably a marriage can fall apart under the merciless power of addiction. When the lies became insurmountable, Kathleen was forced to reckon with the compromises she had made to try to save her marriage. She wondered if she could survive on her own.

The result is a memoir that is page-turning and heart-breaking. Here Kathleen asks why she kept so much hidden--from her daughters and herself--for so many years, why she became dependent on one man, and why she was more faithful to a vow of secrecy than to her own truth. This inspiring chronicle of radical honesty and self-actualization speaks to women who have lost part of their identity and want to reclaim it.

Kathleen Buhle has worked on women’s issues in Washington, D.C., for the past decade. She was the director of strategic partnerships at the DC Volunteer Lawyers Project, a non-profit serving domestic violence survivors. Presently she is the CEO of The House at 1229--which she founded in 2019 as a collaborative space for women leaders--and the development chair for the Ellington Fund. She is the mother of three daughters, Naomi, Finnegan, and Maisy.