Platonic : How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make--and Keep--Friends

一本寫給成熟大人的交友練習！

建立與他人的正向、深度連結，讓友誼成為焦慮時代的堅強後援

 

 　　不少人都有同樣的經驗：進入社會生活後，想要交到志同道合的新朋友，成了一件不容易的事。甚至許多人習慣將工作、戀人關係置於朋友之前，也讓維繫原本的友誼，變得困難重重。

　　然而，在如今這個經常令人感到焦慮、筋疲力竭的世界，友誼的存在，可能比我們原先想像的更為重要。

　　 長期研究友誼與人際關係的心理學家瑪莉莎．G．法蘭柯，在本書中針對人際交往的課題，與讀者分享許多最新、看似反直覺的研究發現，並提出結交朋友、維繫友誼的實用建議，指引讀者從了解自己的依戀模式，近一步釐清對個人而言，經營友誼的關鍵點。

　　任何人，在任何年紀，都能夠結識新朋友、深化固有情誼，事實上，這不僅辦得到，更是有其必要。好消息是，經過研究實證，能夠增進友情的質與量的具體方法是存在的，這部作品將提供任何願意勇敢踏出一步，拓展並加深人際關係的讀者，一份實用易懂的指南，帶領你一步步與他人建立堅強、長久的連結，並在這個過程中，成為更充實、快樂的自己。

(文/博客來編譯)

　　Is understanding the science of attachment the key to building lasting friendships and finding “your people” in an ever-more-fragmented world?

　　How do we make and keep friends in an era of distraction, burnout, and chaos, especially in a society that often prizes romantic love at the expense of other relationships? In Platonic, Dr. Marisa G. Franco unpacks the latest, often counterintuitive findings about the bonds between us—for example, why your friends aren’t texting you back (it’s not because they hate you!), and the myth of “friendships happening organically” (making friends, like cultivating any relationship, requires effort!). As Dr. Franco explains, to make and keep friends you must understand your attachment style—secure, anxious, or avoidant: it is the key to unlocking what’s working (and what’s failing) in your friendships.
 
　　Making new friends, and deepening longstanding relationships, is possible at any age—in fact, it’s essential. The good news: there are specific, research-based ways to improve the number and quality of your connections using the insights of attachment theory and the latest scientific research on friendship. Platonic provides a clear and actionable blueprint for forging strong, lasting connections with others—and for becoming our happiest, must fulfilled selves in the process.