Secrets to Surviving Infidelity

Now completely updated! A compassionate guide to help couples survive infidelity and improve their relationship.

When a couple’s trust is shattered by infidelity, healing may seem beyond reach--but it doesn’t have to be. This second edition of Secrets to Surviving Infidelity offers a compassionate and practical roadmap toward recovery and reconnection. Through humane insights and step-by-step strategies, Dr. Scott Haltzman, a psychiatrist and marriage educator, shares how to overcome the pain of betrayal and strengthen relationships in its wake.

Whether you are the wronged partner, the one who strayed, or a therapist navigating your clients’ infidelity, this book serves as an essential guide to the intricacies of infidelity--from the initial shock and heartache to the complex process of rebuilding trust. This second edition includes new information on:

- The evolving definitions of marriage and commitment, with updated language to include those who are in unmarried, committed relationships.
- Relationship challenges unique to the LGBTQ+ community
- Gender and sex issues
- The neuroscience of infidelity and ＂flame addiction＂
- Strategies for conflict management

Dr. Haltzman combines real-life stories with robust research to illuminate the types of infidelity, the varied motivations behind affairs, and their impacts on relationships. He provides clear guidance on how to end an affair, how to cope with feelings of anger and grief, and how to foster forgiveness and healing. This book can also serve as a preventive tool to explore and strengthen bonds to make relationships affair-resistant. Secrets to Surviving Infidelity is a lifeline for those desperate to recover and safeguard their relationships.

Scott Haltzman, MD (PROVIDENCE, RI), is a distinguished fellow of the American Psychiatric Association and adjunct clinical assistant professor of psychiatry at Boston University Chobanian & Avedisian School of Medicine. He is the author of The Secrets of Happily Married Men, The Secrets of Happy Families, and The Secrets of Happily Married Women.