Getting to Know You: Lessons in Early Relational Health from Infants and Caregivers

This user-friendly guide uses narrative storytelling to describes the principles of early relational health with direct application to day-to-day work with infants and parents.

Practitioners on the front lines often feel great pressure to know ＂what to do＂ in a wide range of challenging situations. Drawing on both developmental science and extensive clinical experience, Dr. Gold provides evidence that the exact opposite--a stance of not-knowing--helps us find our way into another person’s experience, offering the greatest opportunity for connection, growth, and healing.

Gold presents a model of ＂listening in＂ with an intentional suspension of expectations and a willingness to be surprised. The paradigm of listening in functions as a kind of superpower to enhance teacher-student, professional-parent, and parent-infant relationships. Getting to Know You is important reading for a broad variety of practitioners working with infants, including early childhood educators, home visitors, pediatricians, doulas, and mental health clinicians, as well as policymakers, parents, and other caregivers.

Book Features:

• Summarizes the key advances in our understanding of brain science, child development, and infant-parent mental health.
• Emphasizes lessons from real-life interactions between infants and caregivers as communicated through detailed clinical vignettes.
• Offers practitioners a model for listening that is rooted in the concept of cultural humility and the idea that even in sameness there is difference.

Claudia M. Gold, MD is a pediatrician and writer who practiced general pediatrics for over 20 years and now specializes in early relational health. She has clinical experience in a broad variety of communities and speaks frequently to audiences of both parents and professionals.